Behind the pulpit, you usually find a great man. Behind the great man, you usually find a great woman. This is what you expect. This is what you hope for. This post is for the pastor’s wife.
You have a special place in my heart because my mom is one of you. I recently spoke at a conference for pastors’ wives. It was supposed to be from a pastor’s kid’s perspective. I thought it would be fairly easy. As I was preparing, I was finding out more and more about these sweet women. Their stories reminded me of ours. Their homes were like the one I grew up in. My dad was a pastor at a larger church, but they were experiencing the same pain and difficulties that we did.
My heart was broken for them. You see, more than anything, the devil wants to take away our faith. He would love to have our marriages, our children and our churches, but the greatest prize would be our faith. You think it would be harder to tear away our faith living in a pastor’s home. But, many times that is the easiest place. When you live so connected with that occupation you see things that are unthinkable. They are things you would expect to see out in the world, but not taking place in God’s precious church. The people that are put so high up on pedestals in our congregations seem to fall the hardest. Every time we don’t see it coming, but it does. It knocks the wind out of us. It takes a little bit of our faith because we are utterly confused and completely stumped that someone that makes the claims that they do would participate in the behaviors that they do.
We ask ourselves, “Is this it? Are these the best people Christianity has to offer?” I struggled with this so much. I still hear stories that blow me away. But, I prayed. I shared my frustration with Christ. This is what was pointed out to me. Colossians 3:1-2 says, “He is your life. So, if you’re serious about living this new resection life with Christ, act like it. Pursue the things over which Christ presides. Don’t shuffle along, eyes to the ground, absorbed with the things right in front of you. Look up, and be alert to what is going on around Christ – that’s where the action is.”
I have to look up. I can’t get caught up in the challenges, questions and difficult things right in front of me. It is imperative that I change my perspective to God’s perspective and focus on eternity. I will think on what is lovely, noble and pure. I will look at people through Christ’s perspective and with his love instead of the devil’s judgement, accusation and hate.
It’s interesting. How many times have people seen me fall off my pedestal? God always picks me right back up. It is so easy to see someone else’s sin as worse than ours. I thank Him for His constant grace, forgiveness and love.